CAN OUR BITTER ROOT EXPECTATIONS
"DEFILE" OTHERS?
By Mark Sandford
We who do inner healing have sometimes used the word, "defile," to describe what happens when our expectancies exert a powerful tug on another person. We do not believe this can overcome another's free will, although it can indeed be very difficult to resist. For instance, I can expect others to reject me, and others might feel that expectancy tugging at them. But it can't force them to reject me; it can only tempt them to. They are responsible for whether or not they will give in to that temptation. We have sometimes called this tug, "defilement," and the use of the same word for this concept and the biblical one can be confusing. For that reason, as I revised my family's books, I replaced "defile," with other words and phrases. New wording states, for instance, that expectancies can exert a "powerful tug" on others, and can thus "sorely tempt" them to sin, but not that they can defile them by "causing" them to sin.
One might protest that Hebrews 12:15 says that our bitter roots can indeed "defile many." But Paul, who wrote Hebrews, would never say anything that contradicted the teachings of Jesus. In light of Jesus' teaching that only what comes out of one's own heart can defile oneself, we must interpret Paul to mean that our bitter roots “defile” by tempting others into sinning of their own volition, not that they force others to sin. If we do use the word, “defile,” we need to keep that meaning in mind, and be clear to others that this is what we mean by it.
© Mark Sandford 2018